I love to hear what works for other people, and pick and choose what I would like to try for myself. But please don’t tell me I “have” to do something, or “should” or “must” do something. Everything does not work for everyone, and some people have a bad reaction to being told they “have” to do something. Your intentions may be good, but consider this before you speak: Maybe the person you are talking with has a history of giving away their power and is working on that, so being told what they “have” to do may trigger a reaction of digging in their heels and saying “I don’t HAVE to do anything!” And just as you get to make the decisions for you and your life, others get to make those decisions for themselves. Maybe a better way of making a suggestion, is being clear that it IS a suggestion. “This works for me; maybe it would work for you,” doesn’t sound like an order. Choose your words wisely!