Winter looks different in different places. There might be 6 inches of snow on the ground in one place, and it may be raining like crazy somewhere else. Neither is ‘right’ or ‘wrong,’ it just is what it is. Likewise what is happening in one person’s life isn’t necessarily what is happening in someone else’s life – neither is ‘right’ or ‘wrong,’ it just is. If you are beating yourself up over where you are and what you are doing and what you are going through, remember that comparing yourself to anyone else, or to some timeline that someone is pushing, does not make sense. It is what it is, and you are where you are. Appreciate what is, and move on from there.