Don’t do things for others because you want thanks or praise, because even if they do appreciate what you have done, if they don’t show that appreciation in the manner that you are hoping to see it, you will be disappointed. Instead, do things for others because it feels good to do things for others. And if you are going to do something for someone else, be sure that it is something that they would want, and not just something you would want. Some people might appreciate you coming over to straighten things up for them while they are laid up, but others may see that as a sign that you think they are not neat enough. If you don’t know how they would take it, then ask – don’t just assume that you know best. Your intent does mean a lot, but good intent does not mean that  you can ignore the wishes of others.