In order to fully appreciate the light, you must know the darkness. In this same vein, in order to know what you want, it is important to know what you don’t want. You may have to go through many iterations of what doesn’t work to find something that does work, and you may have to find a lot of what you don’t want before you figure out what you do want. Please remember that this is NOT wasted time or energy. It is moving you toward clearer understanding.