It is hard, yet so important, to be able to be with someone in crisis. The details of what you do are not as important as the fact that you show up and be present. The exact needs vary by the person; they may even vary by the minute. You may be called upon to cry with someone, be there while they cry, do the dishes, make meals, or just be there. This is nowhere near an exhaustive list. And the most important thing is to be there – be present to the pain and the grief and whatever other emotions come up. This may be one of the most important things you ever do.