It is easy to give tit for tat, to play the “you hurt me, well I can hurt you more” game. It is not always easy to be the bigger person, and to overlook past transgressions. But we are not here to get revenge, or to make sure things are equally bad for all involved. I think we are here to love and be loved. And that may mean that we let things go, and that we forgive people, including ourselves, for being less than ideal. What a world this would be if we all returned love for whatever we receive!