We never really know what kind of turn our lives will take. We can plan all we want, and in the end, it is not up to us what happens. How we react to what happens is up to us. Take the time you need to mourn the loss of the life you thought you would have, and remember that you don’t want to take up residency there. Some people will take longer than others to get through this – it is not a race, so don’t let that bother you. This is not necessarily a linear operation; it is not uncommon to have some backwards motion mixed in with your forward motion. Be kind to yourself.